Unresolved Trauma

March 10, 2015

Found an article on unresolved trauma. Below are 20 symptoms:

1. Addictive behaviors – excessively turning to drugs, alcohol, sex, shopping, gambling as a way to push difficult emotions and upsetting trauma content further away.

2. An inability to tolerate conflicts with others – having a fear of conflict, running from conflict, avoiding conflict, maintaining skewed perceptions of conflict

3. An inability to tolerate intense feelings, preferring to avoid feeling by any number of ways

4. An
 innate belief that they are bad, worthless, without value or importance

5. Black and white thinking, all or nothing thinking, even if this approach ends up harming themselves

6. Chronic and repeated suicidal thoughts and feelings

7. Disorganized attachment patterns – having a variety of short but intense relationships, refusing to have any relationships, dysfunctional relationships, frequent love/hate relationships

8. Dissociation, spacing out, losing time, missing time, feeling like you are two completely different people (or more than two)

9. Eating disorders – anorexia, bulimia, obesity, etc

10. Excessive sense of self-blame – taking on inappropriate responsibility as if everything is their fault, making excessive apologies

11. Inappropriate attachments to mother figures or father figures, even with dysfunctional or unhealthy people

12. Intense anxiety and repeated panic attacks

13. Intrusive thoughts, upsetting visual images, flashbacksbody memories / unexplained body pain, or distressing nightmares

14. Ongoing, chronic depression

15. Repeatedly acting from a victim role in current day relationships

16. Repeatedly taking on the rescuer role, even when inappropriate to do so

17. Self-harm, self-mutilation, self-injury, self-destruction

18. Suicidal actions and behaviors, failed attempts to suicide

19. Taking the perpetrator role / angry aggressor in relationships

20. Unexplained but
 intense fears of people, places, things

The rest of the article can be found here:


4 Responses to “Unresolved Trauma”

  1. Mary Catherine said

    What if, after being summarily dumped by a BP male, after a 16 month relationship, and being told don’t come to my house and being blocked on his telephone and email that you just want to die? What then? I’ve made every stupid attempt to make contact but am blocked at every move. I’m utterly devastated and know he enjoys it. I concede.

    • savorydish said

      Unfortunately, there is nothing you can do except work on dealing with your own emotions of abandonment. And accept that he is a damaged human being.

      • Mary Catherine said

        Dear SD,

        Thank you for your insightful comment. I was unaware that abandonment was an issue, but you are 100% correct. I will spend some time and learn about abandonment, and how to understand these complex and quite unfamiliar feelings.

      • savorydish said

        You’re welcome, Mary Catherine.

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