Stephanie Hallett Still Claiming to be a Feminist

March 30, 2014

Part-time wedding blogger, Stephanie Hallett claims she is a feminist. But when you look at the feminist topics she has chosen to write (of which there are many), she has chosen to place her focus solely on rape.

We can all agree rape is a terrible crime. But why would someone devote their whole career to writing about rape? Is there something Stephanie Hallett is trying to tell us? Is there a dark past that has yet to be revealed?

Instead of writing about women who have risen above their circumstances, she has decided to put her laser-like focus on women who have been victimized. Rather than write about female empowerment she is obsessed with tales of victimization. Is this what feminism is about?

Everything this woman writes at Ms Magazine is designed to instill fear/hatred of men in women. The irony is she writes for wedding blogs as well. Love and Hate. All in one package. Where have we seen this kind of ambivalence? This is a very confused woman.

Rape Culture is a hot topic amongst “feminists” like Hallett. It’s the theory that we live in a rapey world full of rapists. They claim society is teaching their male offspring that it’s ok to rape. They would have you believe all women are in danger of being raped.

It’s a pretty wild theory as theories go. One should know that these theories were put forth by women with doctorates. But these are not doctorates in Psychology or Sociology. These are doctorates in Women Studies and Feminist Theories. Women who have doctorates in legitimizing misandry.

The only women I know who have claimed to be raped are ones who have a family history of sexual abuse and alcoholism. Mental health professionals have also observed this tendency. Do they know something we don’t?

Other studies have shown that alleged rapists and women who claimed to be raped come from similar families. Families mired in chaos and childhood abuse. Families that have a history of personality disorders and alcoholism.

But Stephanie Hallett doesn’t write about such topics. And Ms Magazine chooses to delete comments regarding such topics. What are these “feminists” hiding?

Amongst the many topics they are uncomfortable with is the topic of Cluster B personality disorders, especially the kind that causes a woman to be obsessed with victimhood. The kind that creates attention-seeking behaviors.

We’re not talking about normal attention-seeking behaviors like putting on a pretty dress. We’re talking about the scary kind- like flirting with every guy at a college party and then claiming some asshole raped you in your drunken stupor.

I’ve known my fair share of troubled women. I know they will do anything to get attention and sympathy. I’ve known women who swallow a whole bottle of painkillers just to get attention. I’ve known women who tell stories of child abuse to lure unsuspecting white knights.

One has to wonder why a wedding blogger would write about rape. But if you think about it, there is a common thread. Both satisfy a narcissistic/histrionic thirst for attention. Both give the narcissist a FALSE sense of importance. The kind that comes with playing a martyr and a bride.

There is a darker story here. One that Stephanie Hallett has yet to write. It didn’t happen at a college beer fest. It happened in their childhood… in their own household.

It involved acts that you would think would never happen to a child in their own home… by people you would think would never commit such a heinous crime. But Stephanie Hallett is not yet ready to write about such things. Those stories are under lock and key.

One can only hope these women get the help they need to unlock those dark stories. Because women obsessed with victimhood are stuck in a prison. And the only way they can be free is to unlock their past.

They need to learn that true freedom comes from honesty. Not denial. Not tales of delusion and deception. And it certainly doesn’t come from making a public spectacle of ones self or masquerading as some warrior for social justice.

8 Responses to “Stephanie Hallett Still Claiming to be a Feminist”

  1. ArmyChic said

    My father did not assault me. It’s not a safe assumption that every female who has been raped was originally assaulted in her own family. Whether you want to acknowledge it or not, we live in a culture that teaches men and women to take control of their ‘rapeability.’ Don’t drink. Don’t go out alone. Don’t wear provocative clothing….. The onus of rape prevention in on the victim. Sorry to be the one to break this to you. There is only one cause of rape. Only one. The rapist. Rape IS a feminist issue. It is also a MALE issue. Until we teach ‘thou shalt not rape’ rather than ‘thou shalt not get raped,’ we will all live in a rape culture.

    • savorydish said

      These are not my opinions. Just because you did not personally experience that doesn’t mean other women haven’t. As a psych student you should know that re-victimization is very common in women who have been through any kind of child abuse, sexual or non. That is not to say they are to blame. Please do not pull the victim blaming card. I know exactly where you are going with this.

      I’ve never raped a woman and I never had to be taught “though shall not rape”. These people are conditioned from early childhood to seek each other out. Birds of a feather flock together. Dysfunction seeks out dysfunction to perpetuate a cycle of abuse.

      This is not a blame game and you are obviously dealing with some shame. But as a psych student you should know that many women who claim rape are just re-living past memories of childhood abuse. I know this because I have dated women who have been sexually abused as children. This is not a feminist issue. This is a mental health issue.

    • savorydish said

      I think there is a story that you have not yet told us.

    • savorydish said

      You live in different world than me. Where I live, men don’t rape women. And women don’t go to parties worried that they are going to get raped. I only found out about this world when I started dating troubled women.

    • savorydish said

      The feminism I support supports empowerment and equality. If you’ve been raped, I’m sorry for your pain. But all the more reason to get treated and talk about the bigger issues.

    • savorydish said

      Rape victim advocates are just perpetuating denial. And therefore maintaining the conditions which allow for more tragedies to happen.

    • savorydish said

      If you do your research, you will find that women with PDs have a greater “rapeability” than most other women. Some attribute it to low self esteem. But I have seen PD women drink themselves silly and not even remember they were flirting with every guy at the party. Literally throwing themselves on men. Alcoholism doesn’t help either. Especially when alcoholic women black out. For these women dissociation plus drinking spells bad news.

    • savorydish said

      You may live in a rape culture, but the majority of people do not.

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