Something about Charlie
March 16, 2014
Charlie is looking for a fight. She came here to fight for the rights of the emotionally unstable. She thinks we have inaccurately portrayed her kind.
So let’s give credit where credit is due. She got diagnosed and is in DBT treatment. That is certainly a good start.
Even so, she has a long way to go. DBT can not perform miracles, especially on someone who is so far gone.
Despite her insistence that she is the model borderline, Charlie is no different than the other angry women who claim this blog is unfair to their kind.
It is no coincidence that most of these hot tempered women are young. BPD hits its peak in the teen years, continuing it’s terrible effects through adulthood.
Ironic because I gave her a chance to present herself in the best possible light, so she could prove that she was indeed the exception.
But instead of proving me wrong, she proceeded to attack the blog and everyone who tried to kindly reason with her.
Charlie says all her friends are either dead or in prison. So, yeah, I guess you could say she has done better than expected.
But she seems to have missed the point. The point being that her whole life was one big traumatic event filled with tragedy and death. But she insists that she’s not traumatized at all. Uh, ok.
It’s hard to point out the obvious to someone that deep in denial. It’s like talking to a brick wall. All defenses are up. Reason goes through one ear and out the other.
Charlie is under the illusion that being in treatment makes her as good as cured. But she doesn’t realize she has a lot of growing up to do. Arrested development is very much a part of BPD.
I guess she is no different than the college graduate who thinks she knows everything about the world. But there is something about BPD that makes denial a matter of survival. It is as if viewing themselves honestly might kill them.
You can be diagnosed and still be in denial. You can accept your disease and still deny how much pain you cause people.
All you have to do is notice how little compassion Charlie has for the people here to know that BPs deny the pain they cause others all the time. That sort of knowledge is too much to bear.
A borderline who attacks people in hopes of changing their opinion about her is a borderline covering up the evidence. This is a woman who will fight anyone who doesn’t drink her Kool Aid.