Fucked-Up Women Have a TV Show to Call Their Own
July 10, 2012
I love the show. I hate the women.
These are the women who give other women a bad name. These are women who shit in your heart. These are women who bear a striking resemblance to borderline personalities. Though, on a scale of 1 to 10 (11 being my batshit-crazy ex), these women are probably a 3.
They don’t display the overt effects of trauma caused by years and years of abuse. They’re not shouting “rape” wherever they go. They’re not cutting themselves and then crying themselves to sleep. They seem normal. They don’t look like trouble, but that’s exactly why they are trouble. Girls is a show about high-functioning disordered women.
Make no mistake, these women are seriously fucked up. In one season, I have seen a wide-range BPD behavior. Take the main character. This is a woman who has so little self-esteem, she settles for the douchiest hipster in Brooklyn. Like so many borderline women, she wants the emotionally unavailable A-hole because that is how little she thinks of herself.
He keeps “treating her heart like monkey meat” and she keeps coming back for more. This is a woman who engages in self-destructive acts and then complains to everyone how her life is miserable (professional victim). If it weren’t so funny, it would be obnoxious and draining.
Then there’s the smart and pretty one. The one who looks perfect on the outside, but sabotages a perfect relationship with a guy because he’s too nice. She feels suffocated by his niceness. When her boyfriend finds out how unhappy she is, he breaks up with her.
But she’s so fucked up, she begs and pleads to have him come back. But right when he agrees to come back, she freaks out and ends the relationship herself. Does anybody recognize the Push-Pull game? Or the need to be the one who abandons the relationship before she is abandoned? This is the MO of a fucked-up woman.
Women like this don’t give you black eyes, they just shit in your heart and then go running back into the pants of the nearest douchebag. They mess with your head. They tug on your heart strings. If you treat them like a princess, they will thank you by treating you like shit.
They beg for your attention. But when you give it to them, they accuse you of suffocating them. They only want you when you are unavailable. In short, they are fucked up beyond belief.
Then there’s the flaky one, the world traveler with a British accent. We are suppose to marvel at her worldliness, but she is probably the most obnoxious of the bunch. Everything about her is overtly pretentious and contrived. Her big hats and absurd antics are all designed to get attention. This one loves head games. On the Cluster B spectrum, this one leans more towards a Histrionic Personality.
In one season, we’ve seen her lure an ex-boyfriend (who just happened to be in a committed relationship) for sex just so she could claim victory. We’ve seen her flirt with a married man and then act like he’s the asshole when he takes the bait. (spoiler alert) And then in the season finale, we find out that she decided to get married on a whim. Does this impulsive/narcissistic behavior sound familiar? If you’ve been reading this blog, it should.
The show presents these young women as the women of their generation. And I certainly credit the creator, Lena Dunham, for capturing these characters with such painfully accurate details. But if these women represent all the women out there, our society is in big trouble. Fortunately, they don’t represent all women. They represent the 2% ers that I have told you so much about.
The show is appropriately titled Girls, because these young women refuse to grow up (arrested development). Like children, they can be manipulative but they are also terribly selfish (me, me, me). Chaos follows them where they go and they never seem to learn their life lessons. Intelligent girls who are clueless in life.
Let’s face it- disordered people make for good TV. On the small screen, it’s all very entertaining. But, in real life, it can be terribly draining and painful. Like the Jersey Shore cast, the women of Girls are a train wreck waiting to happen. And we just can’t stop watching.