Going Too Far

April 30, 2012

Every once and a while, I’ll read blogs like Tiger Beatdown to keep up to date on what histrionics and the mentally unstable are screaming about these days. Usually, I just roll my eyes at the melodramatics and the “I’m a victim” parade. However, I recently read something that concerned me:

*GAG GAG GLUCK* You have discovered the only vocables worth hearing from Sady’s cock-stuffed maw…die tr*nny whore…[slut walk] is a parade for people who suffer from Histrionic Personality Disorder aka Attention Whores…I know where you live, r#tard…why don’t you do the world a favour and jump off a bridge…Feminazi…

For the record, this is not cool. I am all for calling out histrionics, even expressing rage, but this crosses the line. The commenter above is suggesting violence and rape. And that is never ever OK. That is just plain wrong.

Please people, let’s regain our sanity. I am no stranger to the hatred of histrionic personalities, but this is not the solution. This is crossing the line. The words used above are even offensive to me.

Even though I have had similar threats made to me by people from Tiger Beatdown, I would never condone this as a way of retaliation. Call-outs and put-downs are one thing. Threats of violence and rape are quite another.

If you don’t know what the difference is, then you too may have some serious issues that need to be addressed. Misogyny is just as despicable as misandry. Threats of rape just as horrific as false allegations of rape.

If you are the person who posted that comment above, you are not welcome here. Please get some help. All you’ve done is make it easier for histrionics to claim victimhood.

Too Close to Love You

April 30, 2012

I read the lyrics below and it instantly felt familiar:

You know I’m not one to break promises

I don’t want to hurt you but I need to breathe

At the end of it all, you’re still my best friend

But there’s something inside that I need to release

Which way is right, which way is wrong

How do I say that I need to move on

You know we’re headed separate ways

And it feels like I am just too close to love you

There’s nothing I can really sayI can’t lie no more, I can’t hide no more

Got to be true to myself

And it feels like I am just too close to love you

So I’ll be on my way

You gave me more that I can return

Yet there’s so much that you deserve

Nothing to say, nothing to do,I’ve nothing to give

I must leave without you

You know we’re headed separate ways

And it feels like I am just too close to love you

There’s nothing I can really say

I can’t lie no more, I can’t hide no more

This is exactly how a borderline breaks it off with you when the fear of intimacy kicks in. “I am just too close to love you.” What a completely idiotic thing to say. How can you be too close to love someone? But to a dysfunctional borderline, this makes total sense.  Being too close means fear of abandonment, fear of rejection. Better they dump you before you dump them.
The words in these lyrics are well-chosen to break it easy to you, to make it seem like a gentle letdown. But I can assure you these are more lies. The person telling you these words has most likely cheated on you already or is planning to. They have already fought off their “flight” instincts for as long as they could. Borderlines do indeed break promises. And you have been taken for a ride.
Don’t have any illusions that you will stay friends. That is just the borderline saying nice things so they don’t come off as a total asshole. You were never friends to begin with. They were just using you to fill the Void. You will not realize that until you witness how easily they discard you. You will be shocked by how cold they’ve become.
These kind words are just for show. They were chosen to make the borderline feel better, not you. Don’t let these words fool you. The borderline in flight has no concern for your well-being. If you stand in the way of the exit, they will tell you to “move the fuck on”. This is the real borderline. The real person behind the well-chosen words.
Watch the video. Notice how they chose two combatants to represent two opposing lovers. Fight or flight. A borderline has been reduced to these two primitive instincts when confronted with love. Intimacy is a thing to fear. Being too close is a turn off. It suffocates them. They will tell you so.
The untreated borderline can only simulate love. Being close triggers their “push” response. They are too close to love you. This is what it means when a borderline has to be true to himself/herself.
You should know the author of these lyrics, Alex Clare, dated Amy Winehouse. Judging from the lyrics, he runs in dysfunctional circles.

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