Going Too Far

April 30, 2012

Every once and a while, I’ll read blogs like Tiger Beatdown to keep up to date on what histrionics and the mentally unstable are screaming about these days. Usually, I just roll my eyes at the melodramatics and the “I’m a victim” parade. However, I recently read something that concerned me:

*GAG GAG GLUCK* You have discovered the only vocables worth hearing from Sady’s cock-stuffed maw…die tr*nny whore…[slut walk] is a parade for people who suffer from Histrionic Personality Disorder aka Attention Whores…I know where you live, r#tard…why don’t you do the world a favour and jump off a bridge…Feminazi…

For the record, this is not cool. I am all for calling out histrionics, even expressing rage, but this crosses the line. The commenter above is suggesting violence and rape. And that is never ever OK. That is just plain wrong.

Please people, let’s regain our sanity. I am no stranger to the hatred of histrionic personalities, but this is not the solution. This is crossing the line. The words used above are even offensive to me.

Even though I have had similar threats made to me by people from Tiger Beatdown, I would never condone this as a way of retaliation. Call-outs and put-downs are one thing. Threats of violence and rape are quite another.

If you don’t know what the difference is, then you too may have some serious issues that need to be addressed. Misogyny is just as despicable as misandry. Threats of rape just as horrific as false allegations of rape.

If you are the person who posted that comment above, you are not welcome here. Please get some help. All you’ve done is make it easier for histrionics to claim victimhood.

Too Close to Love You

April 30, 2012

I read the lyrics below and it instantly felt familiar:

You know I’m not one to break promises

I don’t want to hurt you but I need to breathe

At the end of it all, you’re still my best friend

But there’s something inside that I need to release

Which way is right, which way is wrong

How do I say that I need to move on

You know we’re headed separate ways

And it feels like I am just too close to love you

There’s nothing I can really sayI can’t lie no more, I can’t hide no more

Got to be true to myself

And it feels like I am just too close to love you

So I’ll be on my way

You gave me more that I can return

Yet there’s so much that you deserve

Nothing to say, nothing to do,I’ve nothing to give

I must leave without you

You know we’re headed separate ways

And it feels like I am just too close to love you

There’s nothing I can really say

I can’t lie no more, I can’t hide no more

This is exactly how a borderline breaks it off with you when the fear of intimacy kicks in. “I am just too close to love you.” What a completely idiotic thing to say. How can you be too close to love someone? But to a dysfunctional borderline, this makes total sense.  Being too close means fear of abandonment, fear of rejection. Better they dump you before you dump them.
The words in these lyrics are well-chosen to break it easy to you, to make it seem like a gentle letdown. But I can assure you these are more lies. The person telling you these words has most likely cheated on you already or is planning to. They have already fought off their “flight” instincts for as long as they could. Borderlines do indeed break promises. And you have been taken for a ride.
Don’t have any illusions that you will stay friends. That is just the borderline saying nice things so they don’t come off as a total asshole. You were never friends to begin with. They were just using you to fill the Void. You will not realize that until you witness how easily they discard you. You will be shocked by how cold they’ve become.
These kind words are just for show. They were chosen to make the borderline feel better, not you. Don’t let these words fool you. The borderline in flight has no concern for your well-being. If you stand in the way of the exit, they will tell you to “move the fuck on”. This is the real borderline. The real person behind the well-chosen words.
Watch the video. Notice how they chose two combatants to represent two opposing lovers. Fight or flight. A borderline has been reduced to these two primitive instincts when confronted with love. Intimacy is a thing to fear. Being too close is a turn off. It suffocates them. They will tell you so.
The untreated borderline can only simulate love. Being close triggers their “push” response. They are too close to love you. This is what it means when a borderline has to be true to himself/herself.
You should know the author of these lyrics, Alex Clare, dated Amy Winehouse. Judging from the lyrics, he runs in dysfunctional circles.

Slut Shaming Revisited

April 24, 2012

My post, titled Slut Shaming, still remains the most read by 100 to 1. This should tell you who my audience is. If anyone is obsessed, it is these so-called activists. These people are obsessed with slut shaming.

What you may not know is that women who fight against slut-shaming also have a history of perpetuating the very image they are trying to fight. A borderline’s life is filled with tragic irony. This is the result of an ambivalent mind. A mind that is torn between polar opposites.

So why are these women, in particular, sensitive to slut shaming? They would like you to believe all women are subject to this. But this simply is not true. The majority of “slut shamers” are women. What we have here is 2% of the female population accusing the 98% of the population of engaging in “slut shaming”.

How are normal healthy individuals suppose to react when they observe disordered people who are out of control? How are we suppose to react when we see activists praising such people for their “courage”. The courage to act out in self-destructive ways??? They would have you believe there is nothing wrong with this behavior. In their child-like minds, they should not be admonished for their carefree behavior.

I beg to differ. Carefree behavior stops being carefree when allegations of rape are being thrown around. It stops being carefree, when people who are in a committed relationship are having sex with strange men in the stairwell of a garages. It stops being carefree when “activists” are taking up tax dollars to pass laws that make them feel better about themselves.

Stephanie Hallett, a long time proponent of troubled women and proud supporter of the effort to redefine rape to include women who cannot control their alcohol and their sexual impulses, noted this:

the fact that at least 22 percent of rapes are committed using alcohol and drugs, and some studies put that number as high as 77 percent.

So what does this fact tell you? Well, if you’re an activist seeking to prove the existence of rape culture, it says that predators are getting women drunk so they can rape them. What’s that, you say? Young boys go to parties to get drunk and have sex with young girls? Get out. I don’t believe it. You mean to say they are not looking for stimulating conversation? Maybe these activists see something we don’t see.

But hold the feminist presses. If you are an addiction specialist (an objective observer), you will see something very different than what these activists (a not so objective observer) would like you to see. A specialist will see a pattern of self-victimization and instantly recognize the presence of a personality disorder via childhood trauma. What they are observing is that 2% of the female population are repeatedly engaged in shockingly bad behavior. They are observing the behavior of a woman who was most likely sexually abused as a child.

If you are a woman who suffers from BPD and you were traumatized by childhood sexual abuse, you see predators everywhere. You are freaked out by things that go bump in the night. You go to a party and you see a pit of predators. You  have an overwhelming feeling that the world is out to get you. Your life is governed by fear and the avoidance of it. If this sounds familiar to you, then there’s a pretty good change that you fit this profile.

If you remove the filter of a feminist’s agenda, then you are left with this fact: Women who were sexually abused as children often self-medicate with alcohol, drugs and sex. They often subject themselves to repeat SELF-victimization and they are plagued by SELF-destructive behavior. But you will never hear this from the lips of an activist. For this bit of information, you must turn to the medical community and other reliable sources of information.

In other words, these are irrefutable FACTS. To deny these facts shows a profound level of DENIAL. These so-called activists are denying reality by distorting it. They are obsessed with pointing out boogie men. They are denying the TRUTH because the TRUTH is too horrible to accept.

Irrational activists will try to accuse me of shaming women who express their sexuality. Trust me, the furthest thing from my mind is stripping women of their sexuality. The shame these women (these 2%ers) feel is not due to an expression of sexuality. The shame these women feel is due to their inability to control their sexuality, like an adult. The problem is these women express their sexuality inappropriately. They use sex as a weapon, to lash out at the world and themselves. The problem is these women have a troubled relationship with sex, which is why sex brings nothing but misery for these women.

This is not just a case of women having a gay-old time. These are troubled women who are acting out (sexually) as a result of sexualized trauma. In addition, they are causing emotional harm to others and then claiming victimhood. This is not about freedom of expression as some activists would package it. This is the results of sexual abuse manifesting itself in troubling ways.

Let us not confuse these activist for compassionate human beings. Overly-sensitive perhaps, but this is not compassion. This is a tortured soul looking for company. Misery loves company. When Mina Jade posts her concern for animals on death row (a noble cause for concern), this is a borderline projecting her feelings of victimhood/doom onto other sad creatures. When my ex would obsessively read books about sad women, she too was looking for a kindred soul.

But I will remind you- not one of these activists had any sympathy for the boyfriend of the young woman pictured below. None of them understood why he would be filled with rage after finding out his girlfriend had sex with another man in a stairwell of a garage. Not one of these activists had the decency to call for personal responsibility.

If you can’t control your behavior when you drink, then you shouldn’t be drinking. If you don’t want sexual attention, then you shouldn’t dress like you do. If you can’t stay faithful, then don’t commit others to a relationship. So simple, but yet even the most intelligent activist can’t comprehend these simple concepts. They refuse to. They are indignant at the mere suggestion of personal responsibility. They can’t be bothered with common sense.

People with personality disorders bring emotional harm to others, and then they can’t understand why people place shame upon them. They are absolutely clueless.

These are not women. These are troubled little girls trapped in the body of women. Girls that do whatever they want, with whomever they want, wherever they want. These girls like to play games. These are girls who know how to pull on your heart strings. Girls who know how to manipulate and distort the TRUTH. And then they wonder why the world shames them.

These are women who have the emotional IQ of a three-year old child. Everything has matured in these women other than their emotions. This is why they can be so juvenile and irresponsible at times. They were emotionally frozen at the time they were sexually assaulted, doomed to replay the drama of their tragic past. A tragic past that extends way beyond their turbulent college years.

Hypersexuality is almost always a sign that someone was sexualized at a very young age, at an inappropriate age. Somewhere they learned that sexual behavior is how you get attention. From an early age, they were rewarded for this type of behavior. This type of behavior was permanently etched into their brain. This is why drama follows these women wherever they go. This is why these women encounter slut shaming more than any other woman. Do not let women like Mina Jade convince you that their childhood was nothing but sunshine and roses. Her condition tells us otherwise.

When these women are not obsessed about slut shaming, they are obsessed with rape. One should ask why these two always go hand in hand in the world of feminist activism. Stephanie Hallett, once again, is an expert in this field:

The new definition will force us to talk about what rape really means, and understand that all victims are real victims, not just those who are violently forced into vaginal-penile penetration.

For years, rape meant violently forced vaginal-penile penetration. But thanks to the likes of Stephanie Hallett, rape now includes two drunken college kids having sex in the back seat of a car. There is a big problem when troubled women (women who have a history of seeking attention and a secret hatred of men) are interpreting drunken sex as rape. It smells a lot like entrapment. It seems to be an alarming trend.

All victims are victims unless they aren’t really victims. Rape is rape except when it isn’t rape. Sometimes what is interpreted as rape is actually a survivor recalling memories repressed since childhood. The survivors of childhood sexual abuse often have trouble with memory recall, because their mind is filled with emotionally-charged memories of their tragic past. Imagine a computer trying to work when sparks are flying around inside. When trauma is left untreated, there is always the very real possibility that the trauma survivor is interpreting present day events through the filter of their past.

Yes, these women were victims at one time. The problems is they continue to play the victim. They are obsessed with victimhood. The problem is many of these women never addressed their past and therefore are filled with unresolved rage and shame.  The problem is they are bringing these unresolved emotions into their present-day adult relationships, even the casual ones that happen in the back seat of cars and the stairwells of garages.

If you have spent any time perusing through activist/feminist blogs, you will notice that they are littered with trigger warnings. Why is that? When someone has been sexually assaulted, anything relating to rape can trigger violent emotions. When that someone is a borderline personality, the triggers are even more sensitive, the reactions- more violent.

Many of these troubled women are claiming they were raped in their adulthood. But I suspect they were raped long before they could remember. I suspect their demons reside in their childhood when their BPD was still in its infancy. I suspect they are confusing current memories with past memories. These suspicions are based on scientific fact.

By claiming rape, these women are trying to understand why they have lived with shame their whole life. They are struggling to understand why sex triggers memories of rape. These women are struggling to make sense of their past by looking for victimhood in their present. They are imagining rape where it does not exist because somewhere in their past, it did exist.

Activists like Stephanie Hallett, like to present troubled women (the 2%ers) as an oppressed minority. But in fact, that is why they are so troubled. These self-appointed victims are addicted to the benefits that come with playing the victim. These benefits include attention and sympathy for women who behave in selfish and self-destructive ways. This is the kind of behavior that is associated with adults who were abused as children.

You can disagree with all of these observations, but you would be disagreeing with scientific FACT. In the fight between scientific fact and feminist theory, science always wins.

I’ve posted this pic before, but I’m posting it again because it recently showed up on my Facebook newsfeed. It was posted by a political org that I once supported and gave money to. I supported them because I support things like gay marriage and abortion rights. I regret to say that I have since removed that org from my Facebook page and will no longer support them. I will no longer support them because they (like many others orgs I have supported in the past) have started to condone behavior that defines histrionic personality disorder. That I can not support.

The young lady above is THE poster child for histrionic women. Her pic has been on heavy rotation amongst feminist and liberal activist sites, not to mention Tumblr. Which makes me wonder- Have Histrionics/Borderlines hijacked activism and the liberal agenda? To answer this we must dig deeper. We must ask more questions.

There are plenty of woman worthy of praise out there. There are plenty of legitimate victims of sexual abuse out there, women like Jaycee Dugard. There are plenty of women who were, without a doubt, raped. So why do these activists only focus on questionable cases of rape? Why is the woman (depicted above) being raised above the crowds and worshiped like a saint? Why does her story resonate so much with these self-proclaimed “activists” when so many stories of rape are ignored???

To answer these questions, you must look beyond the carefully constructed do-gooder image. These are self-serving activists. And as such, they are always looking for stories that support their sob stories and feminist theories. I am willing to bet that their story is identical to the story of the young lady above. These women claim they were raped. But why is it they have to work so hard to prove that they were raped? Why is it never a clear-cut case? Why are there always questionable circumstances? Why do these women always have dubious reputations?

Let’s make this clear- These women were not kidnapped. They were not beaten over the head and dragged into the bushes. They were frolicking at a party. They drank and they flirted, flirted a lot.  More so than the average party-goer. They came dressed to kill. Then they drank some more.They drank so much, they ended up having having sex with someone they just met. They drank so much the details of the event became murky.

Nothing wrong with getting drunk and have a one night stand, except that these are the type of people who have drunken sex and then call it rape. Yikes. How did a fun night of drinking go so horribly wrong? Now the plot thickens. It seems this is not just a case of a woman who had one too many. Oh no. There is much more to this story than these activists have lead you to believe.

In fact, if you were to dig deeper you would find that these women have a disturbing past. This is not about one night. This is about lifelong tragedy. Never ending tragedy. These are people who have a long history of creating drama and seeking attention in wildly inappropriate ways. These are women who often get into trouble (serious trouble) when they drink. And then cry “victim”. This is a very disturbing pattern of behavior.

These activists like to leave out important details, especially when it comes to details about their sordid past. They may have even suppressed and compartmentalized the past. They would rather you not know about their past, because that would ruin their image of the damsel in distress. That would establish a history of troublemaking.

They would like to leave you with the impression that they are pure as the driven snow. They would like you to believe they were all victims of circumstance. Bad luck. Or as they like to say, “It could have happened to any woman”. They say that a lot. Because that’s how you recruit proxies. That’s how you gain sympathy.

But the odd thing is- Questionable incidents of rape don’t happen to just any woman. These incidents are almost exclusive to 2% of the female population. A population that psychologists have labeled with Cluster B Personality Disorders. That would include histrionic and borderline women.

But rather than call for these Cluster B women to seek help or (god forbid) address their personal issues, they would rather blame society for their problems. According to these activists, mental health issues are not the problem. Society (the other 98% of the population) is the problem.

These activists believe we live in a rape culture. For those of you not familiar with feminist THEORY, rape culture is the fantastical notion that society encourages rapists to rape. Now where have we seen this “the world is out to get me” mentality?

Rather than spend years in treatment, these “activists” would rather spend their time protesting and signing petitions. They seem to think signing petitions is an effective treatment of lifelong trauma. It is not. It is evidence that a troubled mind is incapable of treating itself. A troubled mind only finds ways to fool itself into believing it is not so troubled.

Thanks to Stephanie Hallett and Company, drunken sex now qualifies as rape. Yes, if you have drunken sex with a histrionic woman and they can’t remember the details, then you too could be a rapist.  If the person, you are with, passes out in the middle of sex, then you are a rapist. If memories of past sexual abuse are triggered and you are at the wrong place at the wrong time, then you are in very real danger of being labeled a rapist.

If the histrionic woman in question doesn’t want to tell her boyfriend that she cheated on him, then she makes up a story that casts her as a victim of circumstance. Victims don’t have to accept responsibility or horrible truths about themselves. Victims just tell their sob stories and instantly all is forgiven.

Histrionic women are not content to live alone with their disease. Nope. They are compelled to pull people into their whirlwind of drama. They pull people down with them. They ruin lives, humiliate loved ones and destroy other people’s reputations. Rather than clear their mind of the cobwebs, they launch campaigns to recruit proxies to help fight their battles. They manipulate the masses and tug at their heart strings, hoping you will believe their fabricated tales.

This is a common story amongst this set of “activists”. “Activists” who bear a striking resemblance to histrionic borderlines. Read more about Histrionic Personality Disorder and you will come to the startling conclusion that false-accusations are quite common amongst Histrionics and Borderlines.

Who are these so-called “activists”? Many of them have troubled pasts and  came from troubled families. I’m not talking about every day family troubles.  I’m talking about alcohol addiction. I’m talking domestic violence and emotional abuse at the hands of troubled parents. In some cases, we’re looking at sexual abuse and incest.

Yes, at one time, these activists were victims. Victims of childhood abuse. But sadly, these women go on to replicate the victimization of the past (ie. self-victimization). They have been conditioned by their childhood environment to seek out more chaos and more drama.

A histrionic woman is basically a highly-functioning borderline. That is they have learned how to get their way using every means available to them. For an attractive borderline that means using their feminine charms. It means seducing men with the promise of sex. Not just any kind of sex. Wild sex. The kind of sex that makes boys snicker and girls judge.

Borderline women have a love/hate relationship with sex. They are particularly fond of anonymous sex, sex without the messiness of intimacy, sex in the stairwell of a garage. When I recall my relationship with histrionic borderlines, I recall the sex was always best at the beginning. But it got worse when feelings came into the equation. So you can imagine, these women have a lot of one night stands.

Histrionics/Borderlines are always looking for attention. Any attention will do. Even the bad kind. There is a reason why histrionic women show up to parties scantily dressed. They are desperate to find attention. This is obvious to everyone except the histrionic herself. These are some of the most flirtatious women you’ll ever meet.

So why do so many of these histrionic women end up as activists? Think about what it means to be histrionic. It means having an unquenchable thirst for attention. Being an activist allows them to exploit people who have liberal tendencies, people who are tolerant of dysfunctional behavior. Histrionics see a support system that races to help victimized people and they are not afraid to abuse it.

Activism gives them a steady supply of attention. On top of that, it allows them to portray themselves as victims of oppression. This is important for a person who has been abused since childhood. It is important to let people know they are victims. Victimhood gives them the attention they never got as a child. They become addicted to victimhood. So addicted, they will do anything to get it. They will even victimize themselves to get their next hit of attention.

As said before, women with histrionic personality disorder have troubled pasts. Many of them have repressed memories of being sexually assaulted as a child. These are people who both crave sex and fear it. Not a healthy combo. But it’s these ambivalent feelings about sex that makes things confusing. One minute, they are looking for trouble. The next day, they feel victimized.

To be honest, I don’t know much about this young lady above. But I know women just like her. I know these women very well. Funny thing about women like her is they are almost identical as far as their patterns of behavior. That includes that insatiable thirst for attention. Take a look at Mina Jade’s internet activity and you will know what I mean.

You should ask why these women always seem to be at parties where drunk men are having sex with drunk women. And out of all the women who were at the party, why are they the only ones having sex under shady circumstances. The best way for these women to say “No”, is to not go to these parties. But god forbid these women take responsibility for their own well-being.

It is important to note that these are not random acts, nor are they anomalies. This pattern of behavior has been observed by specialist in this field. These women are following the same script. They are locked in a pattern of self-destructive behavior and self-vicitmization. But don’t take my word for any of this. Investigate for yourself. Here’s a related article in Psychology Today talking about BPD, but the observations could easily be applied to HPD:

The demure borderline character retreats from a situation where they perceive themselves to be victimized or potentially victimized and engages in a sort of “social dissociation” – a kind of morbidly passive-aggressive reaction to social stressors that looks and feels like a complete emotional shutdown and withdrawal; this is informed in part by an intense imperative on the part the individual to avoid taking responsibility of any kind for surrounding situations and circumstances, even when those situations and circumstances are self-created. Think “professional victim”.

My borderline ex is what you would call a “professional victim”. But the more alarming news is that she is not alone. There are entire organizations filled with these professional victims. Birds of a feather, join together. In activism, they have found a way to legitimize their victimhood. Who would dare question their claims? If you knew nothing of HPD/BPD, why would you suspect impropriety? These damsels in distress are very good at manipulating people. Read the sign above. It’s a real tear-jerker. But bear in mind, that woman above is a master manipulator. She is a professional victim.

Dr. Tara on SlutWalk

Stephanie Hallett fights for a broad definition of rape.

April 7, 2012


April 5, 2012