Obnoxious Drunks

October 23, 2011

I was walking down the street last night and two histrionics were screaming for attention. I looked at them only to see their faces.

Obviously they were drunk (medicating their pain/suppressing their abusive past). They didn’t like the fact that I turned around to look at them, so they started hurling insults at me because being drunk is a histrionic’s excuse to be an asshole.

Rather than confront them, which is what they wanted, I ignored them. This threw them into a fit of rage. I laughed as they continued to hurl insults.

They were desperate to suck me into their vortex of drama. But I wasn’t having it. When we reached the stop light, I just turned to look them both in the eyes. And of course the two cowards looked away. This is how you deal with a histrionic.

They were once victims, but now they are sad assholes looking to spread their pain. The city is filled with these sad cases, runaways from another life. The only reason I was able to endure their insults was because I know myself and I know their game.

Milking the Pepper Spray

October 1, 2011

Henceforth, “Milking the Pepper Spray” shall be used to describe the phenomenon known as self-victimization. Self-victimization is a pattern of behavior whereby histrionic women look for trouble and then cry “VICTIM!” when they find it.

Why? What’s in it for them? Attention. Lots of it. Sympathy. These women want you to feel sorry for them:

Sometimes playing the victim is used to divert attention away from a person’s own abusive or dysfunctional behavior. If people’s attention can stay focused on another individual then the abuser hopes that attention will not rest on their own flaws.

The goal of Self-Victimization is to control the responses of other people in one of two ways:

  1. Divert attention away from acts of abuse by claiming that the abuse was justified based on another person’s bad behavior (typically the victim)
  2. Solicit sympathy from others in order to gain their assistance in supporting or enabling the abuse of a victim – also known as proxy recruitment.

It is very common for perpetrators of abuse to engage in self-victimization. This serves two purposes:

  1. Justification to themselves – as a way of dealing with the cognitive dissonance that results from inconsistencies between the way they treat others and what they believe about themselves.
  2. Justification to others – as a way of escaping harsh judgment or condemnation they may fear from people whom they wish to please or impress.

These women have dedicated their whole life to playing the victim. As one BPD specialist put it:

Shy away from the victim mentality. Most folks of BPD WERE victims at one time. That is not the problem, however. The problem is that the BPD derives benefits in remaining a victim…and will fight tooth and nail to remain one. Lots of rewards, lots of power, lots of attention are won by it.

I would include other disordered folk, especially people who suffer from histrionic personality disorder.