A Modest Proposal

September 16, 2011

I want to pitch an idea to both Sady Doyle and Stephanie Hallett. Rather than listen to me complain incessantly about “feminists who spread misery”, I propose a new feminist campaign promoting good mental health.

I propose that Ms. Doyle and Ms. Hallett join forces. A Dream Team, if you will. The campaign will encourage young women to seek help if they have been sexually assaulted, abused or suffer from mental illness/PDs.

This is not a campaign to spread shame, but rather to spread awareness. That means both Doyle and Hallett will have to come clean about their pasts. They will need to take a long hard look at themselves and speak candidly about their condition.They will need to talk about things like BPD/C-PTSD, and how it has affected their life.

If feminists are willing to spread awareness about AIDS and breast cancer, why shouldn’t they be concerned about good mental health? Unless they are saying women should only be concerned about their breasts and their vaginas.

Of course, we can’t talk about good mental health without offering the promise of hope. Since feminists are so fond of signing petitions, let’s have them sign a petition to commit themselves (and hopefully others) to mental health treatment. There is no shame in recovery, only in denial.

Quite frankly, I am tired of being so negative and critical of these two ladies. And I would welcome the opportunity to report on something positive.

So what do you say, ladies? You have fought hard for change in the past. That change can start with you two. Think globally but act locally. You seem eager to lead young women who are willing to be led. So why not lead by example?

It would do wonders for the image of feminists around the world, if you two started taking responsibility for your own health. Quit smoking and drinking while you’re at it. It would signal a new age of empowerment. Women who are tired of playing victim. Women who are tired of blaming society for their problems. Women who are ready to act like women, not little girls.

It would mean a drastic change in methodology. But seeing how both of you are intelligent and well-educated women, I am almost certain you can do it. If there’s a will, there’s a way. The question now is do you have the will to change?

18 Responses to “A Modest Proposal”

  1. savorydish said

    Of course coming clean about your past will include owning up to past misdeeds and apologizing to people you have wronged. But this is part of every recovery program.

  2. savorydish said

    Since young feminists are so fond of Tumblr, we can set up a Tumblr blog where both women can update us on their progress. This is about replacing hidden agendas with full disclosure. We are substituting delusions of grandeur with honesty and clarity.

  3. savorydish said

    The both of you lead very public lives, so it’s not as if you are being exposed or outed. I’m just asking you to be more honest with your readers.

    Don’t you think your readers deserve a little bit of honesty? Don’t you think you deserve to be honest with yourselves?

    • savorydish said

      I’ve learned that I will defend to the death my right to be both a feminist AND a misanthrope. We are all equally terrible!

      -Sady Doyle via Twitter
      The reason you have been repeatedly rejected in life is not because you’re a feminist, it’s because you’re an asshole. How is it that you are so educated and intelligent but you have yet to figure that out?

  4. savorydish said

    Fellas? Yep, I’m cute. And awesome at making out. And NONE OF YOU WILL EVER GET TO EXPERIENCE THAT, because you’re fugly on the inside.

    -Sady Doyle via Twitter

    I wonder what Sady looks like on the inside. Let’s tally this up. So far she claims she’s educated, cute and awesome at making out. I assume she must have equally awesome self-esteem.

    • savorydish said

      Maybe if Sady spent more time working on her insides, she wouldn’t have to worry about convincing the whole entire internet that she’s awesome.

    • savorydish said

      Women like Sady and Stephanie devote their whole lives to convincing the world that they are smart enough, good enough and, gosh darn it, people like them. But it is never enough to actually make them believe all those things. They will make out with everybody in the room to prove they are awesome at making out.

      They will accuse me of degrading them and making them feel insecure. They will accuse me of being abusive. But they were insecure long before I came into their life. And the truth would still be the truth even if I didn’t post it. Change can not happen without acknowledging the truth.

      But women like Sady and Stephanie can not handle the truth. So they run away. They fight it. They try and try to re-write it. But the truth always remains the truth.

  5. savorydish said

    It’s obvious you two love attention and need validation.

    So why not turn that into something positive?

    Instead of spreading hate, anger and fear, spread hope.

    Learn to attract positive attention and positive validation.

    No, I don’t mean flirting with boys on the internet or pretending to be a runway model. I’m talking about something much more meaningful.

    • savorydish said

      The both of you are trying so hard to act like you’re not hurting inside, but you’re only fooling yourselves.

      • savorydish said

        Sady Doyle has learned to defend her right to be an asshole. Because being an insincere asshole keeps people at a distance. Thus keeping her fear of rejection at a distance. But when all your relationships are fake and shallow, life suddenly becomes a lonely experience. Death by loneliness.

      • savorydish said

        Fakers want you to believe their life is fabulous. But if you were to take a look on the inside, you would see their life is full of sadness and misery. The more sadness and misery they feel, the harder they try to convince you otherwise.

      • savorydish said

        Come on you two, show us how tough feminists can be. Put the snarky comments aside, and have the courage to be real.
        You can’t change the world, but you can change yourself. Have the courage to step out from behind those facades. Stop trying to be someone you’re not.
        If you want power and control, start with yourself.

  6. savorydish said

    Both of these women have chosen very public lives. The problem is their public life is a fabrication and bears no resemblance to their private lives. They masquerade as prophets, as respectable members of the community. But that is a sham.

    As public figures they must be held accountable for their behavior and their contradictions, because they are role-models. Emotionally-damaged and socially awkward teens look up to them. They emulate their behavior.

    Another generation of histrioinics is being manufactured out of the pages of Tigerbeatdown and Ms. Magazine. Unfortunately, I can’t stop histrionics from being histrionic. But I can bring the light of truth to their activities. I can show them for who they really are. And then society can decide what to do with them.

    Histrionics read this blog quite regularly. They know that we know. Which means they will take greater efforts to hide themselves. A histrionic is a master of disguise. But fortunately for all of us, a histrionic in disguise still leaves a trail. Find that trail and you will find your histrionic.

    If these women will not seek help, then they are not worthy of your time. Don’t listen to their sob stories or their cries for help. This is an attention-whore creating chaos. They are seeking attention. If these ladies will not accept my modest proposal, then you would do well to stay far far away from them.

    • savorydish said

      Histrionics are natural born troublemakers. They make trouble, they instigate hostility, they stab people in the back and then turn around to claim victimhood. This is how they get attention. They have been using this tactic their whole life. This is the Casey Anthony Effect.

      If you give them your sympathy… if you play into their game then you are feeding the disease. The reason why they never change is because there is a sucker born every minute. There is always a knight in shining armor who wants to rescue the damsel in distress. The only way to keep that knight around is to create more distress.

      Speaking of Casey Anthony, she has been spotted in Mexico. A billionaire whisked her away in his private jet to rescue her. Because, as we all know, she is a victim. Like I said, there’s a sucker born every minute. Unfortunately, I was one of them.

      • savorydish said

        The reason why histrionics require professional help is because they a literally brain-damaged. Years of abuse has damaged their brain. That is why their behavior is so hard to change. Bad behavior is hardwired into their brain. Highly charged emotions override cognitive function. That is why you can point out their bad behavior and still not get them to change. They can’t. Not without help.

        And even then it’s an uphill battle, because you are dealing with someone who is desperately trying to re-write their past. Therapy requires honesty. And histrionics are not wired for honesty. Even if you catch them in a lie, they will create more lies. Lies upon lies. It’s a hard habit to break.

      • savorydish said

        These women were drawn to feminism/activism because they are full of rage. But what are these two privileged women so angry about? They will say social injustice makes them angry. But that’s a bunch of bumper sticker bullshit. Their rage feels much more personal. Their rage most likely sparked at the age of 3, maybe younger. These women are fighting demons from their past.

      • savorydish said

        Sady Doyle and Stephanie Hallett would like you to believe they are living some kind of “alternative lifestyle”. Alternative to what? Happiness? Emotional Stability? Self-awareness?

        But if Sady Doyle retires from activism, who will fight for “women who drank too much and had sex, then later decided it was rape”? Stephanie Hallett has already seemed to retire from “feminist journalism”, who will take her place? Oh I’m sure the pot of histrionics is filled with eager rookies waiting to step in. Maybe SE Smith can take a break from defending a mentally ill person’s right to own handguns to take the lead.

  7. savorydish said

    “Leslie Knope is starting to (sorry!) bore me. Too shiny & wholesome. For TV feminists, give me Britta Perry. Someone fucked up yet earnest.”
    – Sady Doyle via Twitter

    When did being fucked up become an ideal? Sigh. There is no hope for that woman.

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