Stephanie Hallet Cares

August 31, 2011

Stephanie Hallett of Ms magazine wants you to believe she cares… about pigs. According to her activist friends, McDonald’s is abusing their pigs. That certainly is noble of her to sign a petition to end pig abuse. After all, those pigs are pretty darn cute. That Stephanie Hallett is a real humanitarian. Somebody should give her a Nobel Peace Prize.

But I wonder if she cares about human beings as much as she cares about pigs. I know she cares a lot about college girls who drink too much. And women who are labeled sluts. But I wonder if that is the extent of her caring.

I wonder how she treats loved ones? I wonder how she treats people who care for her and treat her with respect. Respect that she may or may not deserve. I wonder if she would sign a petition to end emotional abuse by histrionic personalities? Or is the suffering of pigs more relevant?

I wonder how she feels about infidelity? Or backstabbing? Or trash talking? I bet she’s a really really nice person once you get to know her. She seems like the kinda gal you’d want to bring home to mom and dad. The kind of woman you’d want to marry in a hurry. But then again, I’ve been wrong before.

She works really hard to give people the impression that she’s a quality human being. I hope that’s not just an act for the public. I’d like to think that she’s a genuinely good person. I must admit I have known some feminists who were not all that nice. They seemed kind of angry and hateful. They hate men as much as they hate eating pork. Somehow those two things are correlated. Go figure.

I’ve overheard some of these man-haters say that “all men are pigs”. But, don’t they like pigs? Don’t they care? I’m so confused. Or maybe, they’re the ones who are confused.

Poor Sebastian

August 29, 2011

This is the story of Sebastian, a young man who married a histrionic woman. If you were to look at a photo of Sebastian now, you would hardly recognize him from his former days. That’s because he’s been transformed by a master manipulator. She tells him how to dress, how to behave… even how to think.

Look closely at photos of them together and you will notice her arm is always over his shoulder, like a leash around his neck.  This subtle body language states who is in control of this relationship. What Sebastian doesn’t realize is he is on a very short leash.

Histrionics are control freaks. This is the only way they can soothe the overwhelming feelings of insecurity that have plagued them since childhood. Their experience has taught them that bad things happen when you lose control.

Histrionics have been abused their whole life. They suffer from C-PTSD (lifelong trauma). This means that normal and healthy defense-mechanisms have been cranked up to abnormal and unhealthy levels to ensure survival. That is why the histrionic is so brutal. A histrionic lives in a dog eat dog world. The histrionic will eat you alive.

Histrionics are predators. They look for people they think they can control. They look for submissive behavior. And if you’re not submissive enough, they will try to break you down. They will soften you up with sob stories.

They will tell you what a horrible family they have. They will tell you they were raped in college. They will tell you they have a mysterious disease that no doctor can find a cause or cure for. She will tell you horror stories of ex-boyfriends who were abusers and stalkers. She will convince you that everyone around her is crazy. Everyone except her. Then she will look to you to save her. She is the damsel in distress and you are her knight in shining armor. It is a fantasy role-play that few are able to resist.

Sebastian has no idea what he signed up for. He is clueless. He doesn’t know about BPD or HPD. He doesn’t know about C-PTSD. He doesn’t realize that he is under her spell. He doesn’t realize that she has him wrapped around her little pinky.

Sure, there were times he noticed that she was a little off. Moody at times. Quick temper. He noticed there were times when she was paranoid (on red alert). And then there were other times when she was careless (like a naive child). But he couldn’t put all the pieces together.

Histrionics are good at fooling most of the people most of the time. Everything is an illusion to fool people into thinking all is well. They can even fool themselves. But for this they must employ mind-bending tactics. They must resort to mind games to keep their partner in check. A partner in check is less likely to leave them. A partner in check will not question their ways. A partner in check is clueless. And that is exactly the way the histrionic likes it.

Because if Sebastian were to wisen up, things would get very hairy. If Sebastian were to start questioning her behavior, she would suddenly become insecure again. Because a partner that questions a histrionic is a sign that he is thinking for himself. It means she is losing control. And a histrionic control freak can not allow that.

If he insists on being his own man, she will find ways to knock him down to size. This is the process of devaluation. When a histrionic feels inferior, she will find a way to drag you down to her level. She wants you to feel as insecure as her. This is when the histrionic engages in acts of infidelity- sex with strange men she just met, maybe after a night of binge drinking. Such behavior has the added benefit of distancing them away from you and sabotaging the relationship. Crisis averted.

If Sebastian were smart enough to know what’s up, he would be quickly shown out the door. There would be no sentimental good-byes. No thanks for the memories. He would be done. He would be expected to “move the fuck on”. And if he didn’t, she would accuse him of stalking her. She would accuse him of being abusive. False-accusations are the histrionic’s most potent weapons. Playing the victim is their first line of defense.

If Sebastian were to suggest she seek help, she would suggest he leave her alone. She would suggest that he was crazy. Everyone is crazy except her. Then she would slam the door, leaving him to reel in pain by himself. A histrionic leaves a relationship in a hurry to find someone else who will save her from this tragic life.

This is the histrionic’s MO. It is well-documented. But histrionics will fight tooth and nail to suppress the mountain of evidence. If you know a histrionic, you know this story well. Unfortunately, it is a true story. These are the telltale signs that you are in a relationship with a woman who suffers from histrionic personality disorder.

Let’s start with the definition of pathalogical lying (aka pseudologia fantastica). For that, we turn to Wiki:

Pseudologia fantastica, mythomania, or pathological lying is one of several terms applied by psychiatrists to the behavior of habitual or compulsive lying

…Although it is a controversial topic,[2] one definition of pathological lying is the following: “Pathological lying is falsification entirely disproportionate to any discernible end in view, may be extensive and very complicated, and may manifest over a period of years or even a lifetime.

… The defining characteristics of pseudologia fantastica are that, first, the stories told are not entirely improbable and often have some element of truth. They are not a manifestation of delusion or some more intense type of psychosis: upon confrontation, the teller can admit them to be untrue, even if unwillingly.

Second, the fabricative tendency is long lasting; it is not provoked by the immediate situation or social pressure as much as it is an innate trait of the personality.

Third, a definitely internal, not an external, motive for the behavior can be discerned clinically e.g. long lasting extortion or habitual spousal battery might cause a person to lie repeatedly, without the lying being a pathological symptom.[2]

Fourth, the stories told tend toward presenting the liar favorably. For example, the person might be presented as being fantastically brave, knowing or being related to many famous people.

Pseudologia fantastica may also present as false memory syndrome, where the sufferer genuinely believes that fictitious events have taken place, regardless that these events are fantasies. The sufferer may believe that he or she has committed superhuman acts of altruism and love or has committed equally grandiose acts of diabolical evil, for which the sufferer must atone, or has already atoned for in his/her fantasies.

When you listen to their stories you would think they were mythological figures from a Greek Tragedy or re-incarnations of Joan of Arc and Mother Theresa. This is the histrionic indulging in flights of fancy. Histrionics are self-indulgent narcissists. They are either inflating their egos or seeking attention with victimhood. Any attention will do.

False Memory Syndrome is defined as:

[A] condition in which a person’s identity and interpersonal relationships are centered around a memory of traumatic experience which is objectively false but in which the person strongly believes. Note that the syndrome is not characterized by false memories as such. We all have memories that are inaccurate. Rather, the syndrome may be diagnosed when the memory is so deeply ingrained that it orients the individual’s entire personality and lifestyle, in turn disrupting all sorts of other adaptive behavior…False Memory Syndrome is especially destructive because the person assiduously avoids confrontation with any evidence that might challenge the memory. Thus it takes on a life of its own, encapsulated and resistant to correction. The person may become so focused on memory that he or she may be effectively distracted from coping with the real problems in his or her life

What’s frightening is that some of these people have put themselves in a position of authority. They masquerade as activists, advocates and “journalists”.

But in reality, they are spreading misinformation and their warped view of the world. Their mind is warped by years of abuse. Science tells us that abuse (both physical, sexual and emotional) alter the brain’s biochemistry. The way they see the world is vastly different than those who have not been affected by life-long trauma.

They have formed support networks that support their lies and promote a dysfunctional lifestyle. Networks of enablers enabling lies upon lies. They recruit other emotionally damaged people by telling them the lies they want so badly to believe. As individuals, these people have the power to ruin lives. (remember Caylee Anthony) But as a collective, they have the power to do much more harm. They have the power to spread their disease.

This is no conspiracy theory. This is merely the observation that disordered people will do ANYTHING to maintain the lie. They will create lies to cover up lies. They will create lies until their whole life is a lie. This blog has given you a glimpse into their world. If I am obsessed, it’s because I know firsthand how damaging these people can be. I know the only way to stop these liars from telling their lies is to confront them with their lies. (Oh but don’t think they won’t fight you tooth and nail to stay in denial).

Lies are actually the least of our worries with histrionics. As Casey Anthony demonstrated, histrionics spread misery and pain where ever they go. You might be able to argue that they are not doing this intentionally, but what does it matter. Regardless of intent, misery and pain is misery and pain.

“Feminists” like Stephanie Hallett that cried for quick justice, got it… just not the kind of justice they were looking for. They were calling for DSK’s head but instead got mud on their face:

Prosecutors in the office of Cyrus R. Vance Jr., the Manhattan district attorney, have filed papers requesting that all charges be dropped against Dominique Strauss-Kahn, the former head of the International Monetary Fund

…“The nature and number of the complainant’s falsehoods leave us unable to credit her version of events beyond a reasonable doubt, whatever the truth may be about the encounter between the complainant and the defendant,” the papers state. “If we do not believe her beyond a reasonable doubt, we cannot ask a jury to do so.”…

…Mr. Thompson said that he and Ms. Diallo entered a conference room where the three main prosecutors on the case, Artie McConnell, Joan Illuzzi-Orbon and Ann Prunty, sat.According to Mr. Thompson, when he and Ms. Diallo sat down, Ms. Illuzzi-Orbon said something to the effect of: “Nafi, we’re going to dismiss the case. You have lied to us repeatedly We can’t win the case.”…

…The statement continued: “We also maintained that there were many reasons to believe that Mr. Strauss-Kahn’s accuser was not credible. …

…Ms. Diallo had not met with prosecutors in nearly a month. The last time was July 27, when she went to their office to listen to recordings of telephone conversations she had with a man in an Arizona jail. Prosecutors have said that the recordings showed that Ms. Diallo was talking about exploiting Mr. Strauss-Kahn’s wealth. …

…Prosecutors have said Ms. Diallo lied about her past in Guinea on her asylum application, and that in an interview, she told them a false story about being gang-raped in her native country…

I guess misandrists will have to find another martyr for the cause. One that is less questionable and shady.

Unfortunately, not all histrionics/borderlines are caught on camera. Then it’s your word against hers. Stephanie Hallett of Ms. Magazine would like you to believe false allegations of rape/sexual assault never happen. This video will come as a disappointment.

Unstable

August 25, 2011

Vodpod videos no longer available.

Unstable, posted with vodpod

Vodpod videos no longer available.

The Wrong Kind of Attention, posted with vodpod

Lost in Translation

August 21, 2011

I found this little gem hidden in Tumblrdom. Histrionic thinking can be a little hard to decipher, so let me translate for you:

My rapist doesn’t know he’s a rapist, because I decided that after the fact. Some might say we had consensual sex. Well, as consensual as can be after 3 bong hits, 6 shotgunned beers and 5 shots of cheap whiskey.

But since I’m a woman, I am entitled to decide what is and what isn’t rape. If I feel used and ashamed after sex, it must be rape. Right? If it triggers memories of childhood abuse, it must be rape. Why should I be the only one to carry around shame?

Just because I was wearing short shorts doesn’t mean I wanted to have sex. Just because I started making out with every guy at the party, doesn’t mean I’m loose. Just because I had sex in the stairwell of a garage, doesn’t mean I’m a slut. Where do people get this impression?

Society needs to stop being so judgmental. If a woman wants to have sex in the garage, she should be able to. If she wants to drink until she loses consciousness, she should be able to. Honestly, I don’t know why I have the reputation I do. I guess society must have it in for me.

I have a long history of alcoholism and often demonstrate a lack of boundaries. My decision-making skills can be summed up in my penchant for bad boys and having sex in garages. Can I help it if I’m young and pretty?

Having sex in a garage makes me feel sexy. Except afterwards, then I get this sinking feeling that I was used for sex. But, I’ll show him. How dare he have sex with me and walk away.

Why is it so hard to find a guy who wants to snuggle after sex in the stairwell? Why don’t these guys ever want to bring me home to meet their parents?

I’ll make him regret having sex with me. I’ll ruin his reputation. Like he ruined mine.

My rapist doesn’t know he’s a rapist, because I just wrote this sign on the bus two hours ago.

Ok, I have to go now. I have more signs to make and my sharpie is getting dry in this hot DC sun.