Was Amy Winehouse Too Sensitive for This World?

July 25, 2011

Dr. Drew was not the only one to comment on Winehouse’s death. Val Kilmer, having played many addicts, had a few words. He made the observation that some creative people are too sensitive for this world.

If this sounds a lot like BPD, it’s for a good reason. There is speculation that Winehouse showed all the signs for BPD. Borderlines often use alcohol and drugs to self-medicate, to numb the pain. Sometimes they use it to end their life. To most, it seems like self-destructive behavior. To those who experience this much pain, it’s the only way they can cope.

Yes, they tried to make her go to rehab. But people this troubled always have excuses. Borderlines who manage to seek treatment will often quit prematurely. Instability and inconsistency is part of their nature. In the end, it is their downfall.

5 Responses to “Was Amy Winehouse Too Sensitive for This World?”

  1. savorydish said

    Dr. Drew’s observation bears repeating- had Winehouse stayed in rehab, she probably would still be alive today.

    The loss is only made more tragic, when you consider what an amazing talent she was. But even that talent and her grammy-winning success could not make her happy.

    Some borderlines chase fame and excess in hopes that it will bring them happiness. But these are distractions, illusions of hope. When you are born with biological unhappiness, long-term treatment is the only light at the end of the tunnel. Anything else is the borderline fooling themselves.

    As Dr. Drew noted, part of the illness is the inability to see the value of what’s good for you. It doesn’t help that we live in a culture that celebrates the likes of Marilyn Monroe and Elvis- celebrities who glamorize this live fast/die young lifestyle.

    Knowing borderline personalities as well as I do, I can assure you there is nothing glamorous about their lives. Winehouse’s demise was not a bad pill taken. It was a bad life made to look good on the outside. It was the illusion that killed her.

  2. savorydish said

    The sad thing is some misguided soul will probably worship Amy Winehouse because she died so tragically. Just like they worship Marilyn and Lady Di. Tattoos of her image will be all the rage, just like tattoos of Tupac. Troubled kids see these people as martyrs and saints. But they were merely rebels without a cause. They were just too sensitive for this world.

  3. savorydish said

    Winehouse was a train wreck waiting to happen. As far as I’m concerned the people who managed her and the people who surrounded her are all responsible for her death. Her death will be on their conscience. A borderline always surrounds themselves with people who are willing to participate in the great lie. And expels anyone who confronts them with the truth.

    Not every borderline is as obviously troubled as Winehouse. Most do a pretty good job of hiding their dysfunction. People might see this as a sign of well-being. They will look at their borderline loved one and think everything is ok because he/she is not as bad as Amy Winehouse. And they would be wrong.

    BPD is a serious disorder that has serious consequences. Just because a borderline is better at keeping it together, doesn’t mean the pathology is any less severe. Part of their condition is a false perception of reality- self-delusion, paranoia and a general lack of self-awareness. They are also very good at putting up false fronts as a defense-mechanism. These two factors make it highly unlikely they will seek treatment.

  4. savorydish said

    You don’t have to be an addict to display addict-like behavior aka personality disorders. If addiction or mental illness runs in your family, odds are it is in your blood. You will not have the same reactions to alcohol as non-alcoholics. If you are prone to black outs, extreme mood/personality changes and dissociative states, it is a sign that you have this condition. You too will suffer from false perceptions of reality even when you’re not drinking.

  5. savorydish said

    Though my borderline ex is not addicted to alcohol or drugs, it doesn’t mean she won’t meet a tragic fate. Tragedy follows her wherever she goes. Borderlines are magnets for tragedy.

    I have warned her family, but they are oblivious and in denial. And she is so good at putting on false airs. She smiles for the cameras. But underneath that smile is a dark cloud. Only a few have seen that side. And they have either been ostracized or have drifted away for the sake of their own well-being.

    She is still living a lie. Fighting to re-write her past, but ignoring her current state. She is a mess. And she knows it. But she fools herself into believing she can just tough it out. She is wrong. Wrong-headed thinking will be her demise.

    It sounds terrible, but I’m relieved to no longer be part of her life. To still be emotionally attached to her would only cause me more misery. If she won’t get better, then I am better off without her.

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