Cartoonish Women

July 1, 2011

Does the woman, that you’re with, spend a lot of time in front of the mirror?

Does she make cartoonish facial expressions and theatrical gestures?

Are her reactions overly-dramatic (like a bad soap opera)?

Does she cry a lot to elicit sympathy or avoid blame?

Does she inappropriately flirt with everybody?

Does she enjoy playing the mother hen?

Does she tell people how to dress? How to act?

Does she have promiscuous tendencies?

When something bad/sad happens, does she act like she’s having the time of her life?

If you answered “yes” to most of these, then you’re probably in a relationship with a histrionic personality. Which means you are in a relationship with a person who has no problem using and abusing people.  This person is highly manipulative and prone to dramatization.

Take everything they say with a grain of salt, because they are habitual (if not pathological) liars. They say what they need to say to get you to do what they want you to do. They create scenarios where they are the damsel in distress, you are the knight in shining armor and someone else is the evil villain. This is a classic histrionic act. Don’t fall for it. Or you will end up feeling like a sucker. Worse yet, you might eventually become the evil villain.

Once a histrionic squeezes the life out of you, they will flush you down the toilet. Once they realize you are on to their act, they will drop you like a hot potato. They may have convinced you that they love you. But you have been duped. Histrionics are incapable of intimacy. Don’t be surprised when they act like nothing ever happened. You will say, “But but, I thought you loved me?” And they will wonder why you don’t “move the fuck on”.

Histrionics are the femme fatales that so many films have warned us about. They are the Sirens from Greek mythology and many other cautionary tales. They are damaged goods. They are great at seduction but bad at life. The glamor and the make-up are covering up a life of never-ending tragedy. If you allow them to suck you into their drama, they will take you down with them. They perform and tell stories to draw attention. Their thirst for attention is insatiable. The trick is to avert your gaze.

One Response to “Cartoonish Women”

  1. savorydish said

    Pretending you care for someone when you don’t is abuse. The fact is histrionics are incapable of intimacy. So they fake it. When they sense intimacy is approaching, they freak out. They feel suffocated or get bored. This is when you will see the abusive side of HPD.

    They will betray your trust. They will stab you in the back. All in an effort to scare you away. They will do this because they are scared… by intimacy.

    Some have argued that there is little difference between HPD and BPD. But I’ve observed that HPs are much better hiding their pathology. They are much better at making people feel like they are on a pedestal. In that way, they are much more abusive. The higher a victim is placed, the harder they fall. And the fall is inevitable. It is then, the HP will run from the scene of the crime.

    It’s easy to walk away from a relationship when your emotions are shallow and contrived, when you have never formed a genuine attachment.

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