Who Would Make False Allegations?

May 12, 2011

Ms Magazine wants you to believe false accusations are almost non-existent. But Dr. Richard Hall shows us that false allegations of abuse occur in a variety of contexts; the most frequent being:

1) disputed and ugly divorce cases

2) in custody disputes involving children

3) by angry borderline patients

4) by patients with Munchausen’s syndrome by proxy

5) by psychopaths against authority figures

6) by inadequate patients with strong needs for recognition and attention

7) by patients with personality disorders

8)by substance abusers, particularly alcoholics

9) by patients with paranoid psychoses

10) by patients with paranoid personality

11) by patient with “multiple personalities”

12) by passive patients urged to file complaints by their therapists to meet the unspoken needs of the therapist.

(I would also include people with a victim complex and people who have suffered repeated trauma)

Notice most of these people have a distorted sense of reality. So it’s hard to say they are liars, because they may believe they are telling the truth. It’s also possible that their subconscious mind compels them to lie as some sort of self-defense mechanism or as a form of denial.

4 Responses to “Who Would Make False Allegations?”

  1. savorydish said

    Why would an adopted child accuse her father of sexual abuse? As Dr. Hall points out, there are plenty of reasons. Attention being one of them. Damaged people often lash out at the people closest to them. This is why partners of borderlines are often subjected to insults and infidelity. They are transferring their pain onto you. False allegations are just one of the many ways damaged people inflict pain upon their loved ones.

    • savorydish said

      These stories of betrayal are not uncommon when children are adopted from abusive environments. These damaged souls have been conditioned to associate intimacy with pain. Borderlines often complain about feeling suffocated by intimacy.
      It is this “suffocation” that causes them to lash out. Hit and run that is a borderline’s MO.

  2. savorydish said

    People who make false accusations have a history of doing so in their private lives. After destroying a relationship and leaving an intimate partner in ruins,they will often justify their brutal actions by falsely accusing their partner of the crimes they have committed.

    If they were unfaithful, they will accuse their partner of being untrustworthy. If they treated their lover cruelly, they will say it was because their lover was abusive. This is their sneaky way of saying “you made me do it”. They are always the victim, never the victimizer. At least, when they are telling the story.

  3. savorydish said

    I’ve listened to my borderline ex tell me all her stories. And the way she tells it, everybody in her life was responsible for tormenting her. From her parents to all her exes. Everybody except herself.

    I started out as her savior, the chosen one to rescue her from all her tormentors. But somehow ended up being lumped in the tormentor pile. Now why do you suppose that is?

    The accusations started when she started complaining about feeling suffocated. She started feeling suffocated every time the intimacy dial got turned up. Every time we went on vacation together. Every time I introduced her to family. Every time she felt threatened by the possibility of rejection.

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