The Importance of Being Rob Lowe

May 7, 2011

I had my doubts about Pierce Morgan. Maybe it’s that smug used-car salesman grin he wears on his face. But he’s had some good interviews.  He knows how to challenge people and get to that place hiding behind the facade of stardom. I had zero interest in watching Rob Lowe’s interview. When Pierce started gushing about how pretty he is, I reached for the remote. But then it got interesting. It turns out Rob was a drama geek in high school and a political junkie in adulthood. Seems he’s more than just a pretty smile. I actually found myself agreeing with a lot of his opinions on politics.

But then they got personal. They began talking about rehab and how it saved his life and his career. They spoke about his dear friend Charlie Sheen. And Lowe made the remark that you have to be a little damaged to be in show business. And Pierce told him of the myriad of performers who confessed that their parents never told them, “I love you”. Lowe was quick to say his parents were very loving. But then a light dawned on him. The very controlled Rob Lowe had a moment of revelation. He realized the moment his parents divorced was the moment he had decided that he was going to be an actor. Until this interview, he had never made the connection. Well-played Pierce.

Divorce has a devastating effect on children. Hollywood is littered with children of broken marriages. The more famous the person (Marilyn Monroe, Elvis, etc), the more this seems to be true. It doesn’t even have to come down to divorce. Parents who constantly fight or parents who neglect/abuse their children instill a fear of abandonment/rejection in their children that lasts a lifetime. Such children are likely to develop personality disorders (BPD, Narcissistic, Histrionic, etc) and some will fall prey to alcoholism or substance abuse. These children will also develop an insatiable need for attention and approval.

These children grow up to be adults who crave the feeling of importance. They will literally do anything to feel important. Such people naturally gravitate towards show business, politics and other public arenas. This is not necessarily a bad thing. Obama was a child of a broken marriage. He seems to be doing all right. But he had the benefit of his mother’s guiding hand. If they are self-destructive or had bad parental role-models, these children will seek the wrong kind of attention. They will manufacture drama. They will make false accusations. And they will cast themselves as victims or martyrs.

At 46, Rob Lowe has proven that it’s never too late to get your shit together. Sure, he’s had to weather a string of broken relationships, an embarrassing sex vid, and a struggle with alcoholism, but now things are looking pretty good for the aging heartthrob. He seems to have matured and gained some self-awareness. Good for Rob Lowe. Everybody deserves a second chance.

4 Responses to “The Importance of Being Rob Lowe”

  1. savorydish said

    Rob Lowe has taught us that the emotionally damaged can be very ambitious and successful people. They pursue careers in show business and politics, hoping outer change will make them feel better about themselves. But meaningful change has nothing to do with how others perceive you. It has to do with how you perceive yourself. Sadly, some people have to hit rock bottom before they realize that.

  2. skyeee said

    Isn’t everyone, to some degree, emotionally damaged ? I’m just curious on your perspective of it.

    • savorydish said

      Sure. I count myself as one of the emotionally damaged. One could say I involved myself with emotionally damaged people because I know what it’s like.

      We all have our issues. But some more than others. Some much more than others. It’s all relative. It’s not black and white. If it were, life would be easy. Being emotionally damaged is not really the problem. It’s how it manifests itself. I was never one to hold prejudice over people who were damaged, until I found myself being used and abused by such people.

      Once someone becomes abusive then it becomes an issue that needs to be addressed. This is not really about labeling people or making them feel like less of a person, it’s about getting people to acknowledge the pattern of abuse they are repeating over and over again. It’s about sorting out the bullshit in our lives. I’ve had to take stock of my life. I’m hoping others will too.

      If Rob Lowe can do it, we all can.

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