Narcissism Animated

March 29, 2011

I found this xtra normal animated vid on YouTube. I felt like I was watching an exchange between me and my ex. This particular one reminded me of our last night together. I had confronted her about a guy she was texting. That night my parents had taken us both out for dinner, and once again she was busy texting away. I questioned her about the texts and she got really defensive. She accused me of being jealous and told me the guy was just a friend.

She got so mad at me, she made me give her house keys back and she kicked me out of her place. The next day she apologized but insisted we take a break. Well a few days later, she confessed that she had sex with the “friend”. And now she is accusing me of abusing her.  These are the mind fucks you can expect when you get involved with a person who has troubled past.

If this scenario sounds familiar, you need to detach immediately. If he/she is blaming you for all the problems, that means they have zero self-awareness. This is a no-win situation. There is no way to work things out with a person who is this irrational. I know it’s hard to leave , but your well-being is at stake. The longer you stay, the more screwed up you will be.

A narcissist is twisted and you can not straighten them out. As this vid’s title states- it’s pointless to argue with a narcissist. The woman in this vid is in denial. That means the truth causes her great pain. Confronting narcissists with logic and facts will only make them angrier. I confronted my ex with the truth and she punished me by having sex with another man. This is how fucked up these people are. Get out while you can.

4 Responses to “Narcissism Animated”

  1. savorydish said

    The guy in this cartoon is a bit wimpy. But then again narcissists/borderlines have a way of subjugating you. Making you believe you are the one who is being abusive. The ole Jedi mind trick.

  2. savorydish said

    The relationship between narcissism and BPD is a complex one, this article helps explain it.

  3. savorydish said

    Here’s a good description of a narcissist. It’s in the context of team dynamic, but it could easily be applied to intimate relationships:

    It is difficult to recognize a narcissist because he (or she) spends all of his time acting, protecting his ego by presenting to the world a mask, a false image of himself. Consequently he becomes a master of deceit

    Researchers have found that a narcissist reacts much more emotionally than a non-narcissist, sometimes with “narcissistic rage” when his (or her) ego is threatened. Social comparison information is especially salient as the narcissist processes social information in terms of its relevance to the self, that is, he reacts to negative feedback with more anger and aggression and lower self-esteem than a non-narcissist. In fact his mood and self-esteem fluctuations can usually be attributed to social comparison information.

    For example, it has been recognized for some time that narcissists prize intellectual performance above almost everything else, so a better qualified work colleague would likely evoke a hostile affect through upward comparison.

    Because of a propensity to internalize failure, the narcissist’s emotional response to failure is to feel shame, as opposed to guilt felt by people without the disorder. So in order to avoid shame, which the narcissist feels must be avoided at all costs, he externalizes blame for negative events. As he feels someone must be guilty, he almost always attributes blame to others. Only when his self-esteem is particularly high, perhaps through some positive feedback he has engineered, does he accept blame, and only then if it can be seen as a magnanimous gesture.

    A narcissist is someone who is overtly or subtly arrogant, exhibitionistic, vain, manipulative, and greedy for admiration. Narcissistic rage, character assassination and projection are some of the overt ways in which the narcissist expresses himself. For example, she may envy a work colleague’s beauty, and project her feelings into her colleague by accusing her of being envious. Projection in teams is particularly prevalent.

    The denial of remorse and gratitude by the narcissist are two of the more subtle ways used to protect an internal sense of grandiosity. An example of a narcissist’s ability to be subtle might be when he arrives late for a meeting. Rather than offer a sincere apology, he may blame someone else for keeping him talking, thus externalizing the fault (“It’s not my fault”) and maintaining his sense of grandiosity.

    Despite tending to be exhibitionistic, it is very rare to hear a narcissist brag or boast. Instead, he (or she) tends to ‘drop’ information in the form of an ostensibly ordinary matter-of-fact report, which appears to be intended to elicit admiration without asking for it. For example, rather than say, “I was so please to meet our CEO, Peter Smith”, he will casually allude to “…lunch with Peter”, in a way that induces a sense of distance and inferiority in the recipient of the information; again maintaining his sense of grandiosity.

    A distinction must be made between ‘normal’ or ‘healthy’ narcissism on the one hand and ‘pathological’ narcissism on the other. We all have some degree and variety of narcissistic delusion which, if it is not too great, is normal and healthy. But the pathological narcissist has a level of delusion that is divorced from reality.

  4. savorydish said

    QB,
    You are more than welcome to stay and publicize my blog. I hope you and your traumatized friends will learn something in the process. But that would require some reading comprehension on your part.

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