Meet Skye

February 5, 2011

As you can see, she is a woman. She is a feminist. And she has BPD. She is also one of my favorite regulars. If you haven’t read her blog, you should. Her example could be inspirational for some of you angry protesters.

The reason why I’m such a big fan of her is because she has taken responsibility for her well-being. She has plenty of excuses to live in denial, to live in blame and shame. She was emotionally-abused by her BP mother. But this has only given her the motivation to not follow in her mother’s footsteps. She has spent a good deal of time learning about her disorder. One could argue that she knows more about BPD than her doctors. She is truly an enlightened woman.

Instead of being stuck in denial or blame, she has chosen to make herself better. She has even accepted the fact that she has been abusive to past lovers. And had the balls to call them to apologize. Who amongst you would ever do that?

Notice her blog is dedicated to talking about her struggles (as she has many) with BPD. She doesn’t use it to spread hate or intolerance. She uses it to spread awareness about her disorder. She is completely honest about everything in her life. She’s not perfect, but the fact that she is trying to get better is so commendable.

A lot of you of hard cases could learn from her. You could learn a lot from her. She has amazing strength and self-awareness. I have learned a lot from her. She is comfortable with who she is. And that is damn refreshing when you have been in a relationship with a borderline in denial.

Get to know her, she shares a lot of the same struggles you do. But she has found a way to beat the odds. Instead of lashing out at me, learn what she has done to take ownership of her life and apply that example to your life. If you don’t believe anything I say, then ask her. I’m sure she would be more than happy to explain it to you.




3 Responses to “Meet Skye”

  1. savorydish said

    Dear Knee Taco.

    The only BPs I know personally are women, but that doesn’t mean there aren’t male BPs. BPD affects both men and women. About 2-3% of the population has BPD. That sounds like a small number but it’s a number in the millions. Currently there seems to be more BP women than men. Some hypothesize that this is because women are more vulnerable to trauma. BPD is a trauma-related disorder.

    I assume by your tone of voice that you suspect some gender bias on my part, but that is only because I date women. That’s not going to change. BPD is a disorder that manifests itself in intimate relationships. BPD related abuse is triggered by fears of intimacy and abandonment. If you continue reading my blog, you’ll see that some of my regulars are women in relationships with BP men. Perhaps speaking to them might ease your feminist fears.

    I understand your cynicism, but these are established facts about BPD. Don’t take my word for any of this. Do your own research.

  2. skyeee said

    Ahem, according to The National Institute for Mental Health – 75% of those diagnosed are young women.

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