Feminist Claims Tila Tequila is a Victim of Oppression.

October 12, 2010

In a recent article for Ms Magazine’s blog, the author suggested that internet famous Tila Tequila is a victim. It seems Tila’s scumbag boyfriend threatened to release a sex vid if she did not pay him $75,000. Tila filed an injunction to prevent the release of the vid. (Where have we seen this publicity stunt before?) But the court denied her request, citing that Ms Tequila “exploited her sexuality” for a living.

It’s hard to protect someone’s privacy rights, when exposing themselves is what they do for a living. But let’s talk about personal responsibility. Let’s talk about the decisions our poor Tila has made for herself. Mentally healthy women don’t “accidentally” end up on publicly released sex vids.

Admittedly, I don’t know much about Ms Tequila. But I’m going to guess she didn’t have the best parental role-models. I’m thinking she’s got some serious daddy issues and has a history of acting out. I’m guessing she has a long history of making bad decisions. She strikes me as the type who is attracted to “bad boys” and looks for love in all the wrong places. So we should not be shocked that her boyfriend tried to blackmail her.

Her desperate need for attention and exaggerated sexuality suggests low self-esteem and poor self-image. I would not be surprised to find a history of sexual trauma. I wouldn’t go as far as saying she was “asking for it”. But we reap what we sow. There’s a reason why women like her, Pamela Anderson, and Paris Hilton always find themselves neck-high in drama. What good is it to portray Tila as a helpless victim? Wouldn’t it be more empowering to say that women are masters of their own destiny?

When did feminism become the defender of the emotionally challenged? There are so many positive role models for women- Oprah, Hillary Clinton, Michelle Obama, Ellen Degeneres, Beyonce etc. And none of them have been embarrassed in a sexy vid.

Sadly, we live in a culture where the glitz and glam of internet fame is seen as an easy way to cover up a troubled past and a troubled soul. The need for attention coupled with the thirst for drama are a recipe for public humiliation. Slapping a C-level celebrity with the label of “victim of oppression” is not only absurd, it suggests how many damaged women are stuck in a state of blame, denial and blind rage. Instead of running away from personal responsibility, maybe these women need to learn to deal with their issues in real and productive ways.

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